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An Unfortunate Turn of Events

Yesterday Dea received the results of her Tuesday PET scan. They were disappointing. When we discussed a plan for a quick Daily Dea update, she laughed that we should just come right out and say that this week has been “an unfortunate turn of events.”  There you have it. She wanted to share an update right away.

Up to this point Dea’s treatments have been working to apply some brakes to the growth and spread of her tumors, but this week’s results reveal that the brakes have stopped working. The tumors have grown substantially in size and number, and they are extensively distributed in her liver, lungs, bones, and lymph nodes. Her medical team has outlined a couple options for going forward, but all of them point to a 6-month trajectory toward end of life. As we all know, those estimates are rough, and we don’t know how Dea’s spirit may bend that timeline, but she wanted you to know that this is the tenor of current conversations.

Dea is evaluating test and  treatment options with her team, and hunkering down to give all of that thoughtful consideration with Peter and Ricky — who are with her now. There’s a lot to consider this weekend and she has asked for space and time to digest the news and map out her strategy for going forward.

She also asked me to a) re-re-reiterate her enormous gratitude for the heartwarming food that people have brought so conspicuously marinated with love, and b) send thanks for the pics and messages that folks have been leaving on the website. She is checking those frequently, and feeling the love.

Dea, I know I speak for many when I simply say that we love you, and we are with you.

22 Replies to “An Unfortunate Turn of Events”

  1. Love you, dear friend. Your generous strength, wisdom and creativity has always been a great lift to me when I needed it throughout the years. I hope you know I’m here to help lift whatever you need or want as you move forward. You know I’ve got my paintbrush, markers, boots on, and creative juices ready to share with you whenever you want. Rest up! Xx with love Debs

    1. Dearest Debs, okay. I’m in with you dear friend.

      I would love somehow for us to put our boots on and change the chalkboard which you brilliantly christened in 2008 when I was first diagnosed.

      Let’s have some fun with that! I’ll take a pix and send so we can start thinking. What day you sista? Text me.

  2. Sending you so much love our dear friend. You have shown an enormous amount of strength and grace during the last several years that you have been battling this beast. We love you to the moon and back and you, Peter and Ricky are in our hearts. .May you continue to be surrounded by love ❤️ ❤️❤️❤️ Peter and Melinda

  3. Dea and Peter, I hope you know that you can call on me anytime for whatever help and support you may need. You and Ricky are so dear to me. My love to you all, Lisa

  4. Dea!
    You are a warrior queen. Your strength , perseverance and uplifting attitude is something we have all learned from you about the potential of our own abilities when the chips-are-down. The inspiration of you being you , is a gift to all of those who know you and love you. Peter is a great example to other men of how to stand by your woman and your tribe. A prince of a guy. We thank you!
    En courage and bravo, to you and yours,
    Laura

  6. Sending oodles of love from KK Mikey Tal and Baby O- Clover too. Awooooo.
    So good you’ve got your men close in and all the loving community at your fingertips.

  7. Dea, you have the best friends and family, such wonder in reading people’s words. Your Tologs buddies are with you in spirit. Your inner spirit is so strong that I can only hope that you are are sustained with it in this difficult time. Virtual bear hug, Susi

  10. Sweet Beautiful Friend – Lots of time on that cozy window bed this weekend, absorbing the wonder of nature. You channel its magic every moment in your craft, art, cooking and living. You and the enduring natural world are one. Sending you, Peter and Ricky our strength, resilience, peace and love, Sarah, Svend and Axel.

  11. Aloha Sweetpea ~
    Regardless of your condition or prognosis you are always welcome to come to Maui. Anytime.
    Meanwhile, my soul is with you as you navigate the twists and turns of your labyrinthine journey.
    xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

  12. My Dearest Dea, Heart sister, amazing friend and inspiring human woman. I love you so much despite our distances. You are and have been a bright light of laughter and joy and love. I am right with you no matter our physical distance. I dance with you and sing with you. I would love to connect via phone….Let me know what you want, and I’ll do my best to deliver. Love to Peter and to Ricky. Such amazing men you have who walk with you. Such an amazing woman you are. Love you love you love you.

  13. Darling Dea,
    continuing to send love your way… to Peter and Ricky too. You remain an inspiration to us all, for oh so many reasons. You’re such a gift. My hope is that you’re feeling well enough to keep smiling that sensational smile of yours. Love you so.❤ Lenore

  15. Beautiful Sweet Dea…. wise observer and creator of all that is dear and worth growing in our lives. I am there with you my friend on the window seat and hope you feel my love and care.
    Xxxo ❤️ Trina

  16. Dearest D,
    I am in awe with every precious moment spent with you. The universe has given us a gift of teaching us how to live with grace and resilience through your journey.
    Love Petey, Ricky and you always –
    T

  17. Dearest Dea
    Sending you Peter and Ricky so much love. You my friend are one of the strongest women I know and I love you ❤️
    Sending warm hugs xxxx Jill

  19. Am I allowed to curse around here? FUDGE!!

    Got that outta my system. Love you so much Miss Dea. The Hoes and I are still looking forward to getting in some art together. Let me/us know if you feel up to it and we’ll make it happen.

    Has anybody ever told you you have the best smile? Sending out BIG love….HUGE love from across the world. xoxoxoxoxo

  20. Dea, you are my bright light, my shining star 🌟 and my very dear friend. I am holding your hand and will continue to pray for your healing. I hope you can feel my love, my presence, and the love of your heavenly family.

    I love you so much Dea💕🙏🏻💕

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